Audio Blog: Childhood Dreams

As a kid, it’s easy to dream that anything is possible. No one has told you it isn’t. So I wonder why as adults we suddenly put barriers on ourselves. While on vacation in Santa Cruz, I observed a little girl running up to her Dad. The excitement was evident on both their faces. If I think about the event now, I can’t imagine myself in my late 20’s (almost 30) running up to my Father in such a way. We meet, we hug, and go about our day. Why is it that as a grownup I think it’s silly to run up to my Dad and give him a hug? What about about age makes this behavior inappropriate when it’s a simple gesture of love?

Perhaps the issue lies with “growing up” and our perception of growing up. An event occurs in our lives or someone tells us that what we’ve become accustomed to is no longer proper so we try to mold ourselves to what we think we should be. TV and other media further confuse the process until we get stuck in therapy and feed into the self-help industry when all along as innocent newborns we had the right idea – keep an open mind and heart to life. “Growing up” is what makes us a victim. Children are trusting, innocent, and forgiving. Grownups are rude, conniving, and devious. As the world around us changes, we can no longer trust anyone. We forget all about our pasts and we all make a shift toward unconsciously hurting each other.

I think all we ever needed to know in life was taught in Kindergarten – once again back in our childhood. Have you ever read the book by Robert Fulgham?

Here’s a passage from his book:

Most of what I really need to know about how to live, and what to do, and how to be, I learned in Kindergarten. Wisdom was not at the top of the graduate school mountain, but there in the sandbox at nursery school.These are the things I learned: Share everything. Play fair. Don’t hit people. Put things back where you found them. Clean up your own mess. Don’t take things that aren’t yours. Say you’re sorry when you hurt somebody. Wash your hands before you eat. Flush. Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you. Live a balanced life. Learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work some every day.

Take a nap every afternoon. When you go out into the world, watch for traffic, hold hands, and stick together. Be aware of wonder. Remember the little seed in the plastic cup. The roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody really knows how or why, but we are all like that.

Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even the little seed in the plastic cup – they all die. So do we.

And then remember the book about Dick and Jane and the first word you learned, the biggest word of all: LOOK . Everything you need to know is in there somewhere. The Golden Rule and love and basic sanitation, ecology and politics and sane living.

Think of what a better world it would be if we all – the whole world – had cookies and milk about 3 o’clock every afternoon and then lay down with our blankets for a nap. Or if we had a basic policy in our nation and other nations to always put things back where we found them and clean up our own messes. And it is still true, no matter how old you are, when you go out into the world, it is best to hold hands and stick together.

You might read that and think it’s pretty silly. Taking a nap and drinking milk with your cookies doesn’t make the world go round. Probably not but the basic concept is there. Life doesn’t have to be complicated. We make it complicated by thinking it does which is probably why we’re all in the mess we are.  If we had followed these principles and simply taken the lessons learned in Kindergarten imagine what this world would be? I’d like to live in a world where there was one day peace. Wouldn’t you?

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  • Jeanine Byers Hoag

    Those are adorable pictures!! Are they of you? And I loved your book excerpt! I am actually trying to create a daily 3 o’clock or 4 o’clock break in my life with tea and whatever else is available at the time. My morning and afternoon tea breaks are coming to mean the world to me.


    • Sukhraj Beasla

      Hi Jeanine,

      Thanks for stopping by! Yes, these are my baby photos. :) I love tea breaks. As a family, we would have tea in the morning and at 4pm. I still observe that now. I feel connected to my family even though I’m not there. :)

  • Michelle Shaeffer

    Beautiful thoughts! I’ve wondered the same thing… so many wonderful dreams in childhood that get blown away on the wind as we grow up.

    I say we start a trend of cookies and tea in the afternoon! :)

    • Sukhraj Beasla

      I’m all for that. Cookies, tea, and nap time. :)